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When the Person Who Hurts You Is Also the Person You Love
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Understanding trauma bonding, childhood attachment, and why recognizing abuse isn’t always as simple as it looks. There is a question that…
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The Person Everyone Believes: When reputation becomes more important than the people being harmed
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There is a particular kind of loneliness that comes with being harmed by someone everyone else believes is a good person.…
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Domestic Violence Is Not Just a Relationship Problem
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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and every year I watch social media fill with purple ribbons, statistics, survivor stories, and…
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Justice Without Compassion. Compassion Without Accountability. Why We Need Both.
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There is a story I tell when I speak that usually makes a room pretty uncomfortable. I tell them about an…
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Why Don’t They Just Leave?
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I have heard that question more times than I could ever count. I have heard it in healthcare. I have heard…
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The Label Described What They Saw. It Didn’t Explain What Was Happening Inside Me.
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I have been called a lot of things in my life: lazy, unmotivated, angry, difficult, manipulative, attention-seeking, and noncompliant. And if…
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We Keep Asking What Happened. What If We’re Missing Half the Story?
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For years, one of the most important shifts in trauma-informed care has been teaching people to move away from asking, “What’s…
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The Courageous Journey: Where We Go From Here
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Last week, I shared something I have finally been able to put into words after spending a long time feeling like…
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I Didn’t Choose a Niche. I Followed the Questions.
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For a while now, I have felt like I have been all over the place. One day I am talking about…
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When the Family Story Doesn’t Fit Into a Simple Victim-and-Abuser Box
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I see more and more conversations on social media, including on LinkedIn, about male victims of abuse and violence. I think…